I “Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs.” -Pearl Strachan Hurd
The Power of Words.
As we enter a new year, I want to begin with words. Not only the words I write here on this blog but the words we use every day. I would like to start a conversation on using words to make a difference, to encourage and to give inspiration to ourselves and those around us.
Do you ever stop to think about how words affect what we think and feel? Each day words flow all around us from many sources and the nuances of how and what we speak may be hurting us more than we think.
“Be mindful when it comes to your words. A string of some that don’t mean much to you, may stick with someone else for a lifetime.” -Rachel Wolchin
We can use our words in a way that promotes growth, inspiration, motivation, positive self-esteem, and encouragement or we can use them to hurt, diminish, judge and to break spirits.
Words can inspire or break us.
Words are an intricate part of our lives, and they have the power to make us or break us. They come at us from all directions including the things we tell ourselves. Our words go out into the universe and with them, we can make a difference, or we can use them to be self-defeating.
“Words are seeds that do more than blow around. They land in our hearts and not the ground. Be careful what you plant and careful what you say. You might have to eat what you planted one day.” -Unknown
The words we choose can be positive or negative, and they can hurt or heal. With words we can bring smiles, understanding, caring, validation, anger, disappointment, joy, hurt, self-destruction and so much more. The ones you choose will be the ones that grow.
Think about that, the words you choose will be the ones with the most power.
What words will you use this year?
I want to begin 2018 thinking about the power of words. How I use my words both when speaking to myself and others. Being aware of the value of the words I choose and the effect of those words as I send them out to the universe.
What you say has power, and it can change someone’s day shifting it for good or making it worse. What we say should not only be about how we feel or what we want, it must also take into consideration the person we are expressing our thoughts too.
Every word carries with it meaning, and that meaning has weight to it. For each of us, the power of the meaning we attribute to those words depends on our personal life experience and emotional state when we are in when we hear them.
‘Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about’
There are the words we say to ourselves.
Whether we say them out loud or quietly in our heads doesn’t matter, those words can build us up or break us down. Many times we may not be aware of how we can beat ourselves up with our thoughts. Internal messages are the constant messages running through our minds in the background.
Subconscious thoughts are reaffirming what we think of ourselves, and we should be aware of precisely what those are.
“If we understood the power of our thoughts, we would guard them more closely. If we understood the awesome power of our words, we would prefer silence to almost anything negative. In our thoughts and words, we create our own weaknesses and our own strengths. Our limitations and joys begin in our hearts. We can always replace negative with positive.” -Betty Eadie
What are your internal thoughts telling you?
Are you inspiring yourself? Can you be forgiving with kind words when things get tough? You have the power over your words and your thoughts. Imagine the powerful change you can bring to your life if you only use the right words.
We are harder on ourselves than we would be on a friend or family member. Often we give them comforting words and understanding, encouraging them to be strong, or keep going, or a needed push of confidence telling them they can do it.
Do you know what your internal words are? Are you always putting yourself down? Perhaps you tell yourself negative things. Maybe someone else planted those negative thoughts a long time ago. There is good news; you don’t have to listen to them anymore.
Journal your way to new thoughts.
Speak to yourself like someone you love. Encourage yourself, motivate yourself, and uplift yourself with your words
Journaling is a great way to write out stuff. Here is another place where we can explore the power of words to help us grow. This time we can determine which words we will write and why. We can replace old thoughts and words with better more positive ones.
Journal it on paper, type it out, do whatever works for you. Don’t censor what you write, don’t edit your thoughts. Just write, fill up the paper with shit if that’s what it takes to get it out.
Write out your thoughts, pile through them and just keep going. Ask yourself questions if you like and then answer them. You don’t have to read what you wrote right away. Put it aside for a day or two and come back to it and see what you discovered about yourself.
Be honest, it will pay off
The key here is to be honest because if you are afraid, to be honest with yourself, the only person you will deceive is yourself. Personal growth on any level requires being sincere with your journaling. It requires owning whatever it is that you are looking to change or make better.
Owning anything about ourselves can be hard, but it can also be the best thing we can do. The first words we write may not be enough to help us see what it is that is affecting us so deeply. Those things may be buried beneath all of the surface stuff.
Just keep writing! If you stick with it and get past the surface stuff, you may find yourself in a place of discovery.
“I am, two of the most powerful words. For what you put after them shapes your reality.” Joel Osteen
Change begins here
That is the place where we can effect change. Right there is where we can make new choices and build further personal growth. Life is made up of small things, and change is many little things that add up to make a big difference in our growth.
Don’t be hard on yourself for what you discover this isn’t a place to beat yourself up. It is a place to be kind to yourself and talk to yourself like you would your best friend.
“Absorb what is useful, Discard what is not, Add what is uniquely your own.” — Bruce Lee
Commit to small changes, write them out if you have to. Maybe pin them on the fridge, turn them into quotes, do whatever it takes for you to love yourself where you are at and work in small ways to bring new things to your life.
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” — George Bernard Shaw
When my life was challenging
“What we think, we become.” – Buddha
All of us have been in difficult places in life, and I would imagine there are many ways to get through those times. For me, I would have a new journal in which I would collect quotes, sayings, and words that reflected a variety of things.
“Optimists are right. So are pessimists. It’s up to you to choose which you will be.”
— Harvey Mackay
Some days I would find a quote that gave me strength and courage, and I would write it on the page. Other days it was quotes that resonated all too well with complicated things in my life. Either way, each one gave me validation and hope, they filled my pages with inspiration and the evidence of growth and acceptance of myself.
I always liked blank pages rather than lined pages
It gave me the freedom to write in all directions and seemed to bring more freedom to my thoughts.
“Life is a series of problem-solving opportunities. The problems you face will either defeat you or develop you depending on how you respond to them.”
— Rick Warren
Words alone would fill up space on my page, single words that either resonated with feelings I had or that inspired me to keep strong and keep going. There were also days where I would just write. It didn’t matter whether it made sense to anyone else, I wrote to get to the things and to get out the things.
I have learned the hard way of how holding on to all the negatives of life can literally make you sick. So out they go all the shit right there on the page to be left behind.
“I do not think there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature.”
— John D. Rockefeller
Don’t give up
Keep going, personal growth, self-care, and healing take time and persistence. It may feel like you are not getting anywhere or getting there slowly, that’s ok. Take all the time you need, don’t pressure yourself, most of all remember that small changes are easier to achieve and they add up.
Self-care is a lifestyle you learn to give yourself, and it has many levels.
Discovering your personal dialogue can be a freeing experience. The ultimate decision to make change is up to you. Deciding to leave behind that old baggage and rewrite your story is up to you.
Fill up the blank pages of your journal with all kinds of words. Use them to discover, overcome, let go, give hope, inspire, dream, encourage, grow personally, achieve, plan, do, love yourself, wonder, and most of all to build a better you.
The power of the words is now in your hands. Will you use them to leap new bounds and build a new dialogue with yourself and others?
“Put your heart, mind, intellect, and soul even to your smallest acts. This is the secret of success.”
— Swami Sivandanda
Trust your story, know you are the author of your life, you can edit that story. Open the blank pages of a new journal and decide right there on that page what you want your story to be. Leave behind chapters that no longer serve you and replace them with things that help you and move you forward in your personal growth.
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