Why you should be talking about the power of words.

 I “Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs.” -Pearl Strachan Hurd

The Power of Words.

As we enter a new year, I want to begin with words. Not only the words I write here on this blog but the words we use every day. I would like to start a conversation on using words to make a difference, to encourage and to give inspiration to ourselves and those around us.

Do you ever stop to think about how words affect what we think and feel? Each day words flow all around us from many sources and the nuances of how and what we speak may be hurting us more than we think.

“Be mindful when it comes to your words. A string of some that don’t mean much to you, may stick with someone else for a lifetime.” -Rachel Wolchin

We can use our words in a way that promotes growth, inspiration, motivation, positive self-esteem, and encouragement or we can use them to hurt, diminish, judge and to break spirits.

Words can inspire or break us.

Words are an intricate part of our lives, and they have the power to make us or break us. They come at us from all directions including the things we tell ourselves. Our words go out into the universe and with them, we can make a difference, or we can use them to be self-defeating.

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The Insiders guide to being in life’s doghouse

Being in the doghouse is a metaphor

It indicates the adult version of being sent to one’s room. One can be in the doghouse for a wide variety of reasons and situations.  An angry partner, boss, spouse, or even mother. Basically, it means we messed up somehow according to someone else’s expectations, wants or desires.

cloudy dayFor some of us, this may not be a particularly difficult place to wind up in. It may, however, prove to be a challenging place to remove oneself from.

My doghouse of life usually resulted from my mother.

My mother is a person I describe as having no grey area of life. Things are what they are and you are what she expects you to be. No matter what you live up to her expectations or else. It also doesn’t matter how old you get. There are no excuses for anything, not ever.

Me, I am a person full of grey areas in life. Not only do I have them, I also accept them in others.

Nothing in life is perfect and shit happens. Sometimes that stuff is beyond our control and some days life just gets the best of us. What I may have put in the front of my mind in the morning, by evening could have totally escaped, nowhere to be seen.

I may not have even caught that I lost track of that thing I was supposed to remember or do for a few days. When suddenly it pops into my head, colorful expletives come out, and now I have to make the fateful call.

What comes next

Reluctantly I dial the phone, knowing all too well what was coming. I could tell by the cold curt tone of her hello exactly what that meant. The doghouse is waiting for me.

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What you should know about moxie and why you need it

Happiness requires

courage, stamina, persistence, fortitude, perseverance, bravery, boldness, valor,

vigor, concentration, solidity, substance, backbone, grit, guts, moxie, nerve, pluck, resilience,

spunk, tenacity, tolerance, will power, chutzpah, and a good thesaurus.

-Peter McWilliams

1. Moxie is defined by

Moxie: nerve, determination, guts, resilience or all of the above. My goal is to have as many of these strengths as I can at any given time in life. You never know when you may find yourself thrust into a moment or situation where you need to call up your Moxie to get you through.

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Courage is trying again tomorrow!

2.It may require some moxie to share your story

Depending on your personal life experiences and what you were taught you may think that sharing your stories, or needing someone to talk to, is perceived as being weak.

I think that it is just the opposite. It takes great courage to experience something painful and be able to share your story.

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